No matter how content you are with your life—no matter how good things are, how much progress you’ve made, or how deeply you’ve accepted who you are—there will still be moments when you feel unworthy of the life you’ve been given.
There will always be pockets of time when negative thoughts sneak in. Thoughts that whisper you’re broken, that you’re not enough, that somehow you don’t deserve what you have. Every so often, the question “Why me?” shows up uninvited. And it doesn’t ask for permission—it just appears.
It happens to everyone.
No matter how put together you are, how wealthy you are, or how successful you may seem, life can still hit you sideways. A car accident. A bad diagnosis. A sudden loss. Death is one of the few guarantees in life, and at some point, you will grieve—regardless of your status, strength, or preparation.
These pockets of doubt don’t always come from big, dramatic moments either. Sometimes they show up in the small stuff: misplacing your keys, kids talking back, bills piling up, or people not believing in your dreams. Even when you’re mentally strong, emotionally aware, and doing “all the right things,” those moments can still find you.
I know them well.
For me, they often appear when I’m facing a difficult task because of my blindness. That’s when the thoughts try to creep in: Why me? Why does my life have to be harder? Why am I struggling with something that seems so simple for others?
Here’s the important part though—those emotions are manageable.
You may never fully eliminate them, but you can learn how to handle them.
This is where I like to borrow a page from Happy Gilmore and go to my “happy place.” I remind myself of what I do well. I think about everything I’ve already overcome. I reflect on the challenges that once felt impossible but are now just chapters in my story.
The truth is, the difficulty you’re facing right now exists because you’re capable of handling it.
Whether you believe in God, the universe, or something in between, challenges don’t show up randomly. Sometimes they’re meant to teach you. Sometimes they’re there to redirect you. Other times, they force you to pivot, adapt, and take a route you never would have chosen—but end up needing.
The point is not to get discouraged.
Even when it feels like everything is stacked against you, trust that you have the ability to move through it.
I learned this lesson clearly through jiu-jitsu: be patient and move with purpose. Some situations take time to resolve. Some require extra focus, discipline, and humility. Things may look overwhelming when you first step up to them—but you’ve already lost if you tell yourself you can’t before you even begin.
So when those pockets of negativity appear, pause.
Tell yourself: I can handle this. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can. Practice patience. Take it one step at a time.
Before you know it, you’ll look back and realize—you’re already on the other side.
If this message resonated with you, share it with someone who might need the reminder today. Leave a comment below and let me know how you work through moments of self-doubt. And if you’re on a journey of growth, resilience, or rebuilding confidence, stick around—there’s more to come.




