We might roll our eyes every time a telemarketer callsâbut letâs be real: in some way, weâre all doing the same thing. Maybe not cold-calling strangers 100 times a day, but every day, weâre selling ourselves.
Think about it. In a job interview, weâre pitching our skills and experience. On a date, weâre showcasing our best selves. At a networking event, church, or even standing in line at the DMVâweâre presenting who we are through how we talk, how we dress, how we carry ourselves.
And donât even get me started on social media. Every post, every caption, even this blog is part of how I âsellâ my mindset to the world.
But hereâs the truth:
You canât sell yourself if you donât believe in yourself.
You are a walking, talking reflection of your inner world. If you donât believe you’re good enough, chances are no one else will either. The deal wonât closeânot because youâre not worthy, but because your self-belief didnât show up to the meeting.
Yes, I take some inspiration from sales tactics. Not the sleazy stuffâbut the deeper truths. Because being a great salesperson isnât about manipulation. Itâs about understanding yourself, connecting with others, and knowing your value.
This all comes down to mindsetâthe one I try to live by and encourage here:
đ§ Understanding. Acknowledgment. Acceptance. Growth.
If you “fail to close the sale”âthatâs okay. The beauty is, you are the product. That means you can evolve, refine, and come back better. Failure isnât the end. Itâs just market feedback.
Believing youâre already perfect and never need to change? Thatâs not confidenceâthatâs ego in disguise. Real confidence includes self-reflection and a willingness to grow.
Even when we bring our best game, the work isnât done. We still have to show up, hit the gym (physically or mentally), and do the reps. Whether you’re coming off an MVP performance or a night youâd rather erase from memory, the key is the same:
Show up. Do the work. Keep growing.
Thatâs what it means to sell yourselfânot with desperation, not hoping others feel sorry for you, but with grounded confidence. You attract what you believe you deserve. Someone once gave me a hard truth:
âYouâll never get anywhere by making people feel sorry for you.â
And they were right.
So stand tall. Own your story. Do the inner work.
Be your own best closer. Because the deal youâre making? Itâs the one that shapes your life.




