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  • The Fear of Missing Out: Learning to Be Content Where You Are

    The Fear of Missing Out: Learning to Be Content Where You Are

    The struggle is real—and so is FOMO. The fear of missing out has followed many of us since childhood.

    For me, it started early. I didn’t go to any parties in high school. I wasn’t part of the “cool crowd.” So, when I finally got a rare invite to hang out, I tried way too hard to fit in. I said yes to everything. I agreed with everyone. Why? Because I didn’t want to be left out of the next invite.

    Fast forward a few years, and those small, silly choices to “fit in” turned into bigger, costlier ones. I started chasing validation—wanting invisible approval from people who probably weren’t even paying attention.

    And here’s the truth that hit me later in life:
    No one is really watching.
    No one is judging.
    And if they are, it doesn’t matter.

    The only opinion that truly matters is your own. The real question is—are you better than you were yesterday? If you can honestly say yes, then you’re already winning.

    We scroll through social media and see everyone’s highlight reels—beautiful homes, shiny cars, luxury vacations. It’s easy to feel like we’re behind. But ask yourself—behind what? Behind someone else’s life that was never meant to be yours?

    Maybe everyone else is ordering steak, but you just want a cheeseburger. Or maybe you’d love a steak too—but right now, a cheeseburger fits your budget. You’re still eating, still part of the moment. So what’s the big deal?

    Happiness isn’t about matching someone else’s order. It’s about enjoying the meal you have in front of you.

    You can strive for more tomorrow, but today—if you’re content, if you’re present—there is no missing out.

    There will always be another opportunity, another “can’t-miss” event, another flight to catch—literally or metaphorically. And if you miss this one? Don’t worry. There’s always the next one. Worst case, you take the next flight tomorrow. You’re still going somewhere.

    And no—this isn’t “settling.” This is accepting your current season, with grace and patience. Because when you stop chasing what you’ve missed, you make space for what’s truly meant for you.

    So what if you missed out? Accept it. Move forward. Keep walking your path. The next right opportunity will meet you exactly where you are—no catching up required.

    Your Turn:
    Have you ever felt like you were missing out, only to realize later that you were exactly where you needed to be? Share your experience in the comments—and remember, your path is yours for a reason.

  • The Straight Line to Happiness: Why We Add Extra Stops on Life’s Journey

    The Straight Line to Happiness: Why We Add Extra Stops on Life’s Journey

    I always thought the shortest distance from point A to point B was a straight line. Geometry taught me that. GPS reminds me of that. But when it comes to life, somehow we humans insist on taking the scenic route—with detours, pit stops, and sometimes a full U-turn.

    Have you ever caught yourself saying things like:

    • “First I’ll work this job and save enough money, then I’ll do what I really love.”
    • “I’ll spend more time with my kids… once I’m financially stable.”
    • “I’ll visit my parents when work finally slows down.”

    Sound familiar? Yeah, me too.

    We convince ourselves that happiness, love, or fulfillment comes after we hit certain milestones. First the degree, then the dream job. First the money, then the family time. First the hustle, then the life we actually want.

    The problem? Sometimes all those pit stops become the actual journey—and we never arrive at the destination we imagined.

    Why do we do this? Maybe because the straight path isn’t always easy. Sometimes it means breaking the mold or disappointing the peanut gallery called society. Other times, it’s easier to grab the low-hanging fruit—money, status, or a “perfect” image—than to admit what we truly want.

    Think about it: some people choose to prioritize family dinners over late nights at work, even if it means less pay. Others choose to live in a smaller house just to be closer to their parents. Society might call that “settling.” Social media might call that “unambitious.” But let’s be honest—who cares what society’s algorithm says?

    Here’s the truth: you already have the ability to create the life you want. You don’t need another ten steps, a million dollars, or a shiny trophy to give you permission.

    Want to spend more time with your kids? Do it.
    Want to pick up that hobby you’ve been secretly daydreaming about? Do it.
    Want to live in the mountains with Wi-Fi and a coffee maker? Go for it.

    Sure, sacrifices may be required. Not every choice comes with unlimited options. But many times, the real barrier isn’t money, time, or logistics—it’s fear. Fear of breaking the mold. Fear of being judged. Fear of actually being happy.

    Here’s the twist: happiness isn’t waiting at the end of the road. It’s available at every mile marker—you just have to stop postponing it.

    So maybe the shortest line between A and B isn’t just a math rule. Maybe it’s the way to live life: stop adding unnecessary pit stops, and start walking directly toward what matters most.

    After all, what’s the point of a straight line if we’re too busy circling around it?

    Your Turn: What’s one thing you’ve been postponing for “someday” that you could start today? Share it in the comments—I’d love to hear your thoughts. And if this post resonated with you, subscribe for more reflections on living life with purpose, courage, and a little humor.

  • Stop Chasing Shiny Objects: Learning to Hear Your Own Voice Again

    Stop Chasing Shiny Objects: Learning to Hear Your Own Voice Again

    Why do we let other people make our decisions? Why are we so quick to drown out our own voice in favor of the loudest person in the room—or worse, the loudest influencer on our feed?

    For as long as I can remember, I’ve been guilty of chasing shiny objects. Usually, those objects came with dollar signs attached. The “shiny” was always some promise of money, success, and that mystical pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

    I remember diving into every new opportunity that came my way—multi-level marketing businesses, mentorship programs, real estate investing, stock trading, Amazon selling—you name it, I probably gave it a shot. If someone was dangling the dream of financial freedom in front of me, I was already reaching for my wallet.

    And let’s just say, a lot of that money ended up going down the drain. 💸 I was more invested in other people’s dreams than my own. The truth? I wasn’t chasing success—I was running from my own uncertainty.

    Everyone kept telling me: This is the way. This is what’s important. This is how life should be lived. But in the process, my own dreams and ideals got buried under the noise. I started to realize that the “out-of-the-box” ideas they were selling were actually the same old box society has been pushing for decades—just painted a shinier color.

    Here’s the part that hit me hardest:

    • What if your dream isn’t about running multiple businesses?
    • What if your dream is simply to work a steady 9-to-5, where you can clock out and not carry the stress home?
    • What if your purpose is teaching, shaping the next generation, instead of closing another real estate deal?
    • Or maybe your heart longs for the peace of living in nature—with just enough of life’s comforts to keep you grounded and grateful.

    The point is, we let influencers, gurus, and even well-meaning friends convince us of what success should look like. We forget the most important voice we should be listening to: our own.

    For those of us who are spiritual or religious, it goes deeper. That inner voice is often God nudging us back to what matters most. And trust me, God is not in your Instagram ads selling you a $997 “Financial Freedom Blueprint.”

    So here’s what I’ve learned (the hard way, with plenty of humor and humility):
    Stop chasing shiny objects that aren’t meant for you. Start tuning back into yourself. Your own dreams, your own ideals, your own quiet knowing.

    Because the life you’re meant to live won’t be found in someone else’s sales pitch. It’s already waiting inside you, patiently, until you’re ready to listen.

  • Why We Let Others Decide Our Dreams (And How to Take Back Control)

    Why We Let Others Decide Our Dreams (And How to Take Back Control)

    Why do we let other people make our decisions for us? Why are we often so out of tune with our own selves?

    Ever since I was young, I’ve been easily persuaded by the next shiny object that promised me happiness or success. More often than not, that “shiny object” was the idea of money. The lure of that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow was irresistible.

    I remember joining various multi-level marketing businesses in search of that pot of gold. Later in life, I poured money into courses and mentorship programs that promised the success I thought I deserved. I tried being a real estate wholesaler, a real estate investor, a stock trader, a stock investor, even an Amazon seller. Everyone dangled the same dream in front of me: financial freedom, more time, more choices.

    And I—blindly, no pun intended—followed.

    The truth is, I wasn’t chasing my own dream. I was chasing other people’s dreams. I allowed myself to be distracted, to be fixated on paths that didn’t feel important to me deep down. Why? Because I let everyone else tell me what was important, what life “should” be about. Meanwhile, my own true feelings, dreams, and ideals were drowned out by the noise.

    Sometimes that so-called “out of the box” thinking they sell you is really just another version of society’s box.

    But here’s the thing: What if your dream really is to work a 9-to-5, a regular job without the stress of managing people or investments? What if you feel called to be a schoolteacher, shaping the minds of the future instead of closing real estate deals? What if your true happiness is living out in nature—yes, with all the luxuries money can buy—but far away from the rat race?

    The truth is, we let influencers and “gurus” tell us what we should want until we forget the most important voice of all—our own.

    Your path doesn’t need to look like anyone else’s. The dream that matters most is the one that reflects who you are, what you value, and—if you’re religious—the ideals of God, not the ones shoved at you by the latest social media ad.

    So the question is: Are you ready to stop chasing someone else’s dream and start living your own?

  • Trust Yourself in the Age of Artificial Intelligence

    Trust Yourself in the Age of Artificial Intelligence

    Artificial intelligence is making research faster, easier, and more convenient than ever. At times, it feels like AI is more capable than we are. But no matter how advanced technology becomes, there’s something it can never replace—our inner compass. Deep down, we often already know what’s right and what’s wrong. The real challenge is slowing down and listening to that voice within.

    Too often, we blindly follow advice from others. We punch our destination into a GPS and simply obey the directions without thinking twice. Somewhere along the way, we’ve stopped trusting ourselves and started letting technology tell us what to do.

    I’ll admit it—I’m guilty of this too. First, it was Google guiding my decisions. Now it’s ChatGPT helping me plan my next move. And it doesn’t stop with technology. I catch myself listening to other people’s advice just because I don’t want to be impolite, or because I don’t fully trust my own ideas. Sometimes I follow trends, go with whatever’s popular, or let social media opinions shape my decisions.

    The problem is, when we live like this, we lose sight of what truly matters. We drown in the noise and chaos until we can no longer see clearly. That’s when we need to turn on our fog lights—not literally, but mentally. We need to filter out the distractions, slow down, and focus on the road ahead. If that means pulling over to the side of the road to pause, reflect, and regain control, then so be it.

    What we shouldn’t do is blindly power through with other people’s ideas, beliefs, or shortcuts. Instead, we need to be true to ourselves. Deep down, each of us has an instinct—a survival instinct we were born with. It’s always there, waiting for us to tune back in. We’ve simply grown lazy, relying on technology and random influencers to tell us how to live.

    It’s time to flip that switch back on. Turn on your survival mode. Trust your instincts. Let them guide you where you truly need to be, because no amount of artificial intelligence, viral trends, or outside voices can replace your inner wisdom.