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  • Say What You Mean, Live What You Feel — Life’s Too Precious to Hold Back

    Say What You Mean, Live What You Feel — Life’s Too Precious to Hold Back

    We’ve all heard it before — “Life is short.” Or “You only live once.” (YOLO, right?) It’s become such a cliché that it almost loses meaning. But lately, I’ve started to see life from a different angle.

    To me, life isn’t just short — it’s a gift. Whether it’s long or brief, smooth or messy, life is something to be unwrapped and experienced, not managed or measured.

    I think what people really mean when they say “life is short” is that life is precious. And the most precious thing about it is time. Because time is finite — you can’t get it back once it’s gone.

    Yet, so many of us spend that precious time holding back — holding back our words, our feelings, our truth. We tiptoe around, trying not to rock the boat, trying to please everyone. We form habits that keep us inside the lines so no one feels uncomfortable.

    But here’s the kicker: we still get frustrated when others don’t follow the same rules. We get jealous when someone speaks their mind, lives boldly, or says “no” to something we didn’t have the courage to refuse. They get to live freely while we sit there wondering, “Why not me?”

    Now, don’t get me wrong — there are definitely things worth holding back. Like that punch you want to throw at the grocery store when someone cuts in line, or that not-so-friendly gesture you imagine giving the guy who cuts you off in traffic. (Resist the urge — we’re not trying to star in a road rage video here.)

    But when it comes to spreading love, joy, and kindness, we hold back far too much.

    We don’t say “I love you” enough because we think it’s awkward, or that the other person already knows, or that showing affection somehow makes us weak. We don’t laugh enough, play enough, or express gratitude enough because we think adults are supposed to be serious.

    We tell ourselves that fun is for people with too much time or too much money — and since we have neither, we’d better stay focused, stay tough, and get to work.

    But here’s the truth: life isn’t meant to be a nonstop grind. It’s not all seriousness and sacrifice. Showing love doesn’t make you soft. Smiling doesn’t make you unserious. Laughing doesn’t make you irresponsible. It makes you alive.

    So, say what you mean.
    Ask for what you need.
    Love without fear.
    Laugh without guilt.
    And don’t wait for a “better time” to be yourself — because this is your time.

    Whatever you call it — YOLO, life is short, time is finite, or my favorite, life is a gift — don’t waste it hiding behind a tough exterior. Be real, be vulnerable, and let your true self shine.

    Learn to live a little, give a little, love a little, and have fun a little. You might just find that life feels a whole lot richer — not only for you but for everyone lucky enough to be around you.

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  • Death and Choices: The Real Two Certainties in Life

    Death and Choices: The Real Two Certainties in Life

    I learned something at church this week that really stuck with me — so much so that I keep replaying it in my mind.

    We’ve all heard the saying, “There are two certainties in life: death and taxes.”
    But this week, I heard a different version that completely shifted my perspective:
    “The only two certainties in life are death and choices.”

    That one hit me hard.

    Think about it — taxes aren’t truly guaranteed. Sure, not paying them comes with consequences (and a very unhappy IRS), but it’s still a choice. On the other hand, death is the one thing we truly can’t control. Everything else? It’s a series of choices — big and small — that shape who we are and how we live.

    I’ve come to realize that what defines us most isn’t what happens to us, but the choices we make in response.

    Every day, we’re faced with hundreds of choices. Some are simple — what to eat, what to listen to, whether to work out or hit snooze again (I’m guilty of that one). Others are harder — which bills to pay with limited funds, how to raise our kids, how to treat the people around us.

    We choose whether to be positive or negative.
    We choose kindness over anger, gratitude over envy, and faith over fear.
    And even when life feels impossible, we still have the power to choose how we see it.

    We can’t control death — when our time comes, it comes. But we can control how we live before that day arrives.

    For me, that means choosing to see life as a gift from God, even when it doesn’t feel like one. I’ll be honest — my life is far from perfect. There are days (okay, multiple times a day) when I call it terrible. But then I catch myself and make a choice: I choose to turn that frown into a smile.

    I choose to believe that my struggles can serve a purpose.
    I choose to see my life as a gift, even when it’s messy.
    I choose to walk a path of faith and, hopefully, be a small beacon of hope for someone else.

    You don’t have to be a superstar to make a difference.
    You don’t need millions of followers to be an influencer.

    All you need is the courage to make a choice — to live the best life you can, to be kind, to be grateful, and to see every day as another opportunity to do good.

    Because at the end of the day, life isn’t just about how long you live — it’s about the choices you make while you’re still here.

     Your Turn:
    What’s one choice you can make today to bring more light into your life or someone else’s? Share it in the comments below — and remember, you always have a choice to be the reason someone smiles today.

  • Stop Chasing Shiny Objects: Learning to Hear Your Own Voice Again

    Stop Chasing Shiny Objects: Learning to Hear Your Own Voice Again

    Why do we let other people make our decisions? Why are we so quick to drown out our own voice in favor of the loudest person in the room—or worse, the loudest influencer on our feed?

    For as long as I can remember, I’ve been guilty of chasing shiny objects. Usually, those objects came with dollar signs attached. The “shiny” was always some promise of money, success, and that mystical pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

    I remember diving into every new opportunity that came my way—multi-level marketing businesses, mentorship programs, real estate investing, stock trading, Amazon selling—you name it, I probably gave it a shot. If someone was dangling the dream of financial freedom in front of me, I was already reaching for my wallet.

    And let’s just say, a lot of that money ended up going down the drain. 💸 I was more invested in other people’s dreams than my own. The truth? I wasn’t chasing success—I was running from my own uncertainty.

    Everyone kept telling me: This is the way. This is what’s important. This is how life should be lived. But in the process, my own dreams and ideals got buried under the noise. I started to realize that the “out-of-the-box” ideas they were selling were actually the same old box society has been pushing for decades—just painted a shinier color.

    Here’s the part that hit me hardest:

    • What if your dream isn’t about running multiple businesses?
    • What if your dream is simply to work a steady 9-to-5, where you can clock out and not carry the stress home?
    • What if your purpose is teaching, shaping the next generation, instead of closing another real estate deal?
    • Or maybe your heart longs for the peace of living in nature—with just enough of life’s comforts to keep you grounded and grateful.

    The point is, we let influencers, gurus, and even well-meaning friends convince us of what success should look like. We forget the most important voice we should be listening to: our own.

    For those of us who are spiritual or religious, it goes deeper. That inner voice is often God nudging us back to what matters most. And trust me, God is not in your Instagram ads selling you a $997 “Financial Freedom Blueprint.”

    So here’s what I’ve learned (the hard way, with plenty of humor and humility):
    Stop chasing shiny objects that aren’t meant for you. Start tuning back into yourself. Your own dreams, your own ideals, your own quiet knowing.

    Because the life you’re meant to live won’t be found in someone else’s sales pitch. It’s already waiting inside you, patiently, until you’re ready to listen.

  • Finding Ambition: Moving Forward with Courage and Faith

    Finding Ambition: Moving Forward with Courage and Faith

    Sometimes you have to find that ambition—the assertive, “I know what I’m doing” attitude. Too often, we second-guess ourselves because we’re stuck processing all the “what if” scenarios in our minds.

    Think back to Avengers: Infinity War. Dr. Strange used his power to explore millions of possible futures, but he saw only one where they came out on top. He never told Tony Stark what it was, because if he did, it might not have happened. In Endgame, he finally revealed that crucial piece of truth at the moment it mattered most.

    In life, we want the same thing. We want to know the plan—the exact steps from point A to point B. While GPS works beautifully for driving, a life GPS isn’t always so helpful. Life is full of twists, turns, road closures, and accidents you could never predict. If you only depend on that “life GPS,” you’ll always be rerouting, loading, waiting—stuck in place.

    Instead, we need confidence that life itself is guiding us where we need to be. For those who are religious, that confidence may come from God’s presence and direction. For others, it may come from faith in themselves and the belief that persistence pays off. Whatever you call it—ambition, courage, confidence, or persistence—the point is simple: take the step forward.

    What’s the worst-case scenario? Rejection? Someone saying “no”? Missing out on what you wanted? That pain is temporary. What lasts much longer is the regret of never trying, of always wondering “what if?”

    As long as you move forward with the right mindset, right intentions, and right beliefs, things will fall into place. Iron Man didn’t know exactly how to defeat Thanos, but he continued on in good faith, driven by conviction and courage. In the end, he ended up where he needed to be.

    I walk that same path. I don’t always know the exact next step. I feel nervous and uncertain, just like anyone else. But I believe God is with me, guiding me to where I need to be. And that belief pushes me forward.

    So I encourage you: find your source of faith, guidance, and strength—whether it’s God, purpose, or self-belief. Let it fuel your ambition and give you the courage to step into uncharted waters. Move forward boldly. That is where growth begins.

  • When Life Reminds You Who’s Really in Control

    When Life Reminds You Who’s Really in Control

    It’s funny how some things in life feel like coincidences. Or maybe they’re not coincidences at all. Maybe life has a way of showing us exactly what we need to see, hear, or feel—right when we need it most.

    We see it in movies all the time. That magical incident that suddenly points someone to their true calling. And in real life, don’t we often ask for the same thing?
    “God, please give me a sign. Show me what I need to do, what I need to say, who I should marry.”

    And the crazy thing? The universe delivers. God delivers.

    This past Sunday, I walked into church carrying the heavy weight of my financial struggles—feeling like I had nowhere to run or hide. And wouldn’t you know it? The sermon was about living without control. About surrendering to God’s guidance because only He knows the path. Not a path free of pain, suffering, or hardship—but a path that leads us exactly where we’re meant to be.

    Maybe you’re not religious. That’s okay. Call it God, the universe, or just life—it still delivers signs. The question is: are you willing to listen?

    The answers we get aren’t always what we want. Often, the resistance we feel is because the truth runs directly against our desires. And yet, the lesson is the same: we don’t always get what we want in life.

    I teach this to my son all the time. No matter what social media influencers try to sell you or what the latest “manifest your destiny” book promises—you won’t get everything you want. Nobody does.

    Life has its balance. There will be pain, but there will also be joy. There will be suffering, but also freedom. God provides it all—the highs and the lows—because together, they shape us.

    So maybe the best move isn’t to fight for control but to let go. Let God, let the universe, let life take the driver’s seat. Because that’s how we eventually end up where we truly need to be.