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  • Reclaiming Your Power: Understanding the Emotional Mind

    Reclaiming Your Power: Understanding the Emotional Mind

    🧠 Let’s Be Honest: Sometimes It Feels Like We Have Two Brains

    Let’s start with a truth most people won’t say out loud:

    Sometimes, I feel like I have two brains—and one of them is slightly unhinged.

    You ever find yourself saying something you instantly regret? Or panicking about something that logically doesn’t even matter? Or maybe you’re calm one second
 and irrationally angry the next?

    Well, welcome to your inner jungle.

    Because The Chimp Paradox by Dr. Steve Peters explains that you’re not crazy—you’re just human. And part of being human means sharing your headspace with a wild, emotional machine called the Chimp.

    🐒 So, What Is the Chimp?

    According to Peters, your brain has three key players:

    1. The Human – the logical, rational, thoughtful you
    2. The Chimp – your emotional, impulsive, fight-or-flight brain
    3. The Computer – your memory bank, habits, and auto-responses

    The Chimp isn’t bad—it’s just not always helpful. It was designed to protect you, to sense danger, to react quickly. The problem is
 it can’t tell the difference between a lion chasing you and a slightly passive-aggressive text message.

    So while your Human might be calmly thinking, “Let’s have a mature conversation,”
    your Chimp is already screaming, “RUN. HIDE. DELETE THEIR NUMBER.”

    Sound familiar?

    đŸŒ± Why This Matters

    We often beat ourselves up for our anger, fear, anxiety—or any emotion that feels “too much.” But those reactions aren’t signs of weakness. They’re signs of an untamed Chimp running the show.

    That inner beast—the one that panics, lashes out, or tells you you’re not good enough—isn’t trying to ruin your life. It’s trying to protect you.

    If we don’t acknowledge, understand, and learn to manage the Chimp, it will continue to control our thoughts, behaviors, and decisions. It’s the same Chimp that says you can’t do something because of a limitation, disability, or past failure.

    But here’s the key:
    To break free from the Chimp’s grip, your Human self has to get back in the driver’s seat.
    It’s not about shutting the Chimp down—it’s about taming it.

    💡 A Personal Note

    So when you’re blind like me—or living with a disability, a limitation, or just some heavy life challenges—that inner voice that whispers:

    “You can’t.”
    “You’re not ready.”
    “It’s safer to stay small.”

    Yeah, that’s your Chimp talking.

    It might sound harsh, but it’s not trying to hurt you—it’s trying to protect you from pain, failure, embarrassment, or rejection. That voice is rooted in fear, not truth. And recognizing that is step one.

    For today, just notice the voice. Don’t fight it.
    Simply acknowledge it and say:

    “Hey Chimp, I see you. But I’ve got this.”

    It’s not crazy—it’s human.
    And in the next blog post, we’ll dive deeper into why your Chimp acts this way and how to calm it without losing your mind in the process.

  • You Are the Product: How to Sell Yourself Without Selling Out

    You Are the Product: How to Sell Yourself Without Selling Out

    We might roll our eyes every time a telemarketer calls—but let’s be real: in some way, we’re all doing the same thing. Maybe not cold-calling strangers 100 times a day, but every day, we’re selling ourselves.

    Think about it. In a job interview, we’re pitching our skills and experience. On a date, we’re showcasing our best selves. At a networking event, church, or even standing in line at the DMV—we’re presenting who we are through how we talk, how we dress, how we carry ourselves.

    And don’t even get me started on social media. Every post, every caption, even this blog is part of how I “sell” my mindset to the world.

    But here’s the truth:
    You can’t sell yourself if you don’t believe in yourself.

    You are a walking, talking reflection of your inner world. If you don’t believe you’re good enough, chances are no one else will either. The deal won’t close—not because you’re not worthy, but because your self-belief didn’t show up to the meeting.

    Yes, I take some inspiration from sales tactics. Not the sleazy stuff—but the deeper truths. Because being a great salesperson isn’t about manipulation. It’s about understanding yourself, connecting with others, and knowing your value.

    This all comes down to mindset—the one I try to live by and encourage here:
    🧠 Understanding. Acknowledgment. Acceptance. Growth.

    If you “fail to close the sale”—that’s okay. The beauty is, you are the product. That means you can evolve, refine, and come back better. Failure isn’t the end. It’s just market feedback.

    Believing you’re already perfect and never need to change? That’s not confidence—that’s ego in disguise. Real confidence includes self-reflection and a willingness to grow.

    Even when we bring our best game, the work isn’t done. We still have to show up, hit the gym (physically or mentally), and do the reps. Whether you’re coming off an MVP performance or a night you’d rather erase from memory, the key is the same:
    Show up. Do the work. Keep growing.

    That’s what it means to sell yourself—not with desperation, not hoping others feel sorry for you, but with grounded confidence. You attract what you believe you deserve. Someone once gave me a hard truth:

    “You’ll never get anywhere by making people feel sorry for you.”

    And they were right.

    So stand tall. Own your story. Do the inner work.
    Be your own best closer. Because the deal you’re making? It’s the one that shapes your life.

  • The Squid Game of Life: Why Everything We Do Is a Choice

    The Squid Game of Life: Why Everything We Do Is a Choice

    We all have choices.
    Everything we do—everything we are—is a choice.

    I genuinely believe that.
    A perfect (and oddly powerful) example of this comes from the hit Korean Netflix series you’ve probably heard of—Squid Game.

    Honestly, I wasn’t too excited about the show when it first came out. I thought it was just another violent, overhyped series. I didn’t actually watch it until the last two episodes of the final season dropped. But once I did
 wow.

    Yes, there’s blood. Yes, there’s death. But beneath all the brutality, Squid Game dives into the deep, dark waters of human nature—and more importantly, human choice.

    One of the recurring messages that stuck with me is this:

    As humans, we always have a choice.
    Who we are, how we live, what we accept—these are not fixed. They are choices. Even when it doesn’t feel like it.

    Now, sure—we all tell ourselves stories.
    Why things turned out the way they did.
    Why we’re stuck.
    Why it’s too late, too hard, or just not meant for us.

    But when you watch that show, you see it play out clearly: the characters chose to keep playing. Even knowing the risk. Even knowing the outcome could be tragic. Over and over, they made the choice to stay in the game.

    And isn’t that kind of like real life?

    We say, “I have no choice—I have to go to work so I can pay the bills.”
    Or, “I’m blind, so I can’t go out and meet people or be a productive member of society.”
    Or, “I have too much going on—I can’t keep in touch with friends or make time for family.”

    But if we’re being honest, those aren’t facts—they’re choices.
    They’re the stories we tell ourselves to justify staying comfortable or staying small.

    Even God gave us free will.
    We get to decide—every single day—who we’re going to be.
    Saying, “That’s just how I am,” or “I can’t change,” is just another way of opting out. A smoother path, sure—but it leads nowhere fast.

    In Squid Game, the players often knew what was right.
    They just let fear, desperation, greed—or excuses—get in the way.

    And the truth?

    The right choice is rarely easy.
    But it’s still yours to make.

    Now, don’t get me wrong—I’m not saying you need to be the next superhero who sacrifices everything for the greater good (though kudos if you’re up for it).
    Most of life isn’t a blockbuster drama.
    But your life does have high-stakes decisions—some big, some small—that shape your entire story.

    And that brings me back to the point:

    We all have the choice to live a great and fulfilling life.
    Even if it requires us to look past our excuses, limitations, distractions, and doubts.

    No one promised the road would be smooth. In fact, it’s often full of potholes and detours.
    But the path?
    It’s always there.

    For me, yes—I’m blind.
    Some roads are blocked. Some doors are locked.
    But that doesn’t mean the journey ends.
    It just means I have to loop around, take a different route, maybe ask for directions or grab a walking stick (or GPS).
    And sometimes, the new route is even better than the one I planned.

    But first—I have to choose it.

    So do you.

  • Manifesting Miracles, Transformers, and the Law of Attraction (Through the Eyes of a Kid and a Dad)

    Manifesting Miracles, Transformers, and the Law of Attraction (Through the Eyes of a Kid and a Dad)

    So recently, I was reading about the Law of Attraction—not the art of seduction, but the idea of attracting the things you want in life through mindset and belief.

    Some people think of it as manifesting something out of thin air, like magic or voodoo. Others dismiss it as pure hocus-pocus. But I believe there’s a truth woven into this mindset—a kind of spiritual logic that’s hard to deny when you truly tune into it.

    For me, as a Christian, it actually aligns with putting things into God’s hands, being grateful for what we already have, and staying open to the ways in which blessings show up. Add belief to that formula, and I’ve found you can attract some pretty amazing things.

    God promised that through faith, we could move mountains, walk on water, and even perform miracles. Sometimes I think the universe—or more accurately, God—wants to give us incredible things
 if only we’re willing to receive them. That gift may not always come in the way we want, expect, or even understand—but it comes.

    Let me tell you a little story.

    This past weekend, my son—out of nowhere—decided he wanted to collect all five Constructicon robots from Transformers. (If you’re not a fan, these are robots that also turn into construction vehicles. When you collect all five, they combine into a bigger robot named Devastator. Very dramatic. Very epic.)

    Now, I hadn’t seen these toys in years. They’re from the original Transformers series back in the day. But my son walks into Target, full of confidence and says, “I want a Constructicon Transformer.”

    We didn’t even come for toys. We just needed socks.

    But guess what? We head to the toy aisle, and there—just sitting on the shelf like it was waiting for him—is one lone Constructicon robot.

    Turns out, Hasbro is re-releasing the full set throughout 2025. One down. Four to go. And yes—he now wants all five. (And guess whose wallet is now involved in this divine mission?)

    But here’s what struck me: he didn’t know about the re-release. He hadn’t seen any ads or updates. He just wanted it. Believed it. Spoke it out loud. And poof—there it was.

    Maybe it’s easier to believe in magic and miracles when you’re a kid. Maybe doubt creeps in as we grow older because we’ve experienced more failures and disappointments. But our past doesn’t define our future.

    I love how stockbrokers always say, “Past performance does not guarantee future results.” Well, the same applies to life. Your past doesn’t predict your potential. Your future is still a blank canvas.

    We have the chance to manifest something beautiful. All it takes is belief, vision, and the willingness to keep moving forward—even if the path looks random, awkward, or completely unplanned.

    God and the universe don’t always provide in straight lines. Sometimes the miracle comes during a sock run to Target. Sometimes it shows up as a child’s innocent belief. And sometimes, it’s hidden in between the lines of what we expect.

    We just have to open our eyes, our minds, and our hearts wide enough to see it.

    As for the rest of the Constructicons? With any luck (and a few timely restocks), they’ll be arriving at our doorstep by September or October. But honestly, I already got the bigger gift: a small reminder that belief still holds power—and that miracles can still be found
 even in the toy aisle.

  • Don’t Be a Slave to the Outcome: Your Journey Is the Real Win

    Let’s just say it—“slave” isn’t the most politically correct word, but I’m using it here to drive home a critical point: if your entire self-worth depends on the outcome, you’re giving away your power.

    We’ve all been there.

    You study hard and still fail the test.
    You prep for an interview and still don’t get the job.
    You pour your soul into a business or project and end up losing money.
    You eat healthy, follow doctor’s orders, take your meds… and still don’t get better.

    Yeah, it sucks. It really does. But here’s what we often forget—you still gained something. Something meaningful. Something that can’t always be measured by the final result.

    In our society, we celebrate the winners—NBA champs, Oscar winners, viral success stories. But nobody cheers for the long nights, the quiet failures, or the invisible grit it took to even show up.

    And yet, that’s where the real success lies—in the process.

    Now, this isn’t a message about accepting mediocrity. No, not at all. This is about not letting failure define you. It’s about realizing that setbacks are setups for comebacks.

    You always have a choice: let it crush you or let it build you.

    “Wait, do I choose to be sick? Poor? Disabled?”
    No, of course not. Some things, like my own hereditary blindness, are out of our control. What is in our control is how we let it shape us.

    You can let the hardship destroy you—or you can let it empower you.

    Even trauma, as heavy as it is, doesn’t get the final say unless we allow it to. That may be hard to hear, but your mindset is the deciding factor in whether your past becomes a prison or a platform.

    You’re alive today. That means you’ve been given another shot—to grow, to learn, to move forward.

    So don’t let a single outcome define your entire story. Don’t give one moment that much power. Success isn’t always instant, but it’s always brewing when you keep showing up.

    You may not win this year. You may not land the dream job or break free from your limitation today. But every step, every failure, every lesson—it all compounds.

    Each setback brings wisdom. Each lesson brings strength. And with every milestone, the path to happiness gets a little shorter.

    So celebrate the process.
    Refuse to be a slave to the outcome.
    And remember: the journey is the win.

    Because you’re not defined by the outcome.
    You’re defined by your decision to keep going.

    And that’s power.