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  • Crying Won’t Do It—Facing Life’s Unwanted Tasks

    Crying Won’t Do It—Facing Life’s Unwanted Tasks

    Does that thought ever pop into your mind?
    The one that whispers: I’m too old for this. Too good for this. Too rich for this.

    Well, here’s the hard truth—you’re not.

    When I was a kid, there were plenty of things I didn’t want to do. I didn’t like reading. I didn’t want to practice the violin. And waking up early for Chinese school on Saturday mornings? Forget it. But at the end of the day, I still had to do them—at least enough to get by.

    Now that I’m a dad, I hear the same soundtrack playing through my son’s complaints. He doesn’t want to go to school. He doesn’t want to do homework. He doesn’t want to get ready for bed or eat his vegetables. The cycle continues.

    And let’s be real—it doesn’t magically disappear when you grow up. Adults have their own list: pay bills, pay taxes, wake up for work, clean the house. Some tasks never change, no matter your age.

    Then there are the big ones—the things no one wants to face: illness, injury, emotional trauma, loss. Life throws these at us whether we’re ready or not. And unlike those little tasks, you can’t outsource or ignore them forever.

    Sure, money and resources might soften some blows. You can hire a maid, a nanny, a tutor, or even a mechanic to deal with the small stuff. You can prolong certain things with treatments, trainers, or quick fixes. But sooner or later, life catches up. No amount of money, status, or friends can buy you an escape from pain, loss, or heartbreak.

    Remember the Final Destination movies? You can run all you want, but destiny catches up. Life works the same way.

    So at some point, you have to turn around and face it. Crying, complaining, or avoiding won’t get you off the hook. I tell my son this all the time: “Crying doesn’t get you out of homework. By the time you’re done crying, you could’ve already finished it.”

    And honestly, that applies to all of us. The energy we waste avoiding reality could’ve been spent overcoming it.

    Even with life’s hardest challenges—the ones that leave you grieving, shaken, or broken—you still have the capacity to move forward. Yes, mourn if you need to. Get help when it feels overwhelming. But eventually, you have to accept reality, stand up, and take the next step.

    Because at the end of the day, we all have the ability to get through what’s in front of us. Some may have more resources than others, but every single one of us has the inner strength to face life’s unwanted tasks—whether big or small.

    So don’t cry about it. Don’t avoid it. Just do it. Because life isn’t waiting—and neither should you.

  • Why Me? Discovering the Hidden Strength Within

    Why Me? Discovering the Hidden Strength Within

    Sometimes, I know you’ve asked yourself the same question I ask myself all the time: “Why me?”

    This simple question shows up everywhere—in movies, in TV shows, and most often, in the quiet corners of our own minds. It’s that silent question, almost like a sigh, but it carries so much weight.

    It pops up in small, everyday frustrations—like spilling your drink or forgetting where you left your keys—and in the heavy storms of life: not being able to pay the bills, facing divorce, or losing someone you love.

    And yet, here’s the truth: none of it is more than you can handle. God doesn’t give you battles you’re unequipped to face. Yes, in the moment it feels terrible. Yes, the pain, sadness, and suffering are real. But they won’t break you.

    We’ve all heard the saying: “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.” It’s overused, maybe even cliché—but it’s survived this long because it’s true.

    The challenges in your life aren’t punishments, and they’re not random. They were placed before you because you already carry the power to overcome them. That hidden power you didn’t know you had—it’s your superpower. Think of every superhero story: the hero discovers their gift only when they’re forced to rise up and face impossible odds. That’s you. That’s all of us.

    It may not happen overnight. Just like the X-Men needed years to train their mutant powers, we too need time to sharpen and learn how to wield our strength. But it’s there, waiting inside you.

    Your difficulties are just a snapshot of your present life—not the whole story. Yes, you need to accept the present, but your future? It’s still unwritten, still open. And there is always a way forward. Sometimes the resolution doesn’t look like the one you hoped or dreamed of, but if you’re open to it, there will be light at the end of the tunnel.

    From a faith perspective, sometimes God’s plan carries you through challenges in ways you didn’t expect. He’s given you the superpower, but He may guide you to use it differently than you imagined. Even Superman has kryptonite. Strength doesn’t mean invincibility—it means being able to keep going, even with limits.

    The most important thing? Stay open. Don’t cling stubbornly to just one outcome. Life offers many routes from point A to point B. If you’re willing to take the detours, to circle around when necessary, you won’t stay stuck. You won’t be forever haunted by “Why me?” Instead, you’ll move forward, one step at a time, with the power that was already inside you.

  • Let Your Authentic Self Shine: Living Life on Your Own Terms

    Let Your Authentic Self Shine: Living Life on Your Own Terms

    Sometimes life feels just fine… until someone else tells you it isn’t. You’re going along, happy with your decisions, and suddenly a friend, family member, or random stranger on social media starts handing out opinions like coupons at a grocery store.

    Maybe you want to live a certain lifestyle—be vegan, move up to the mountains, or work at that nonprofit you love. Maybe you want to be a foster parent to a dozen kids, or maybe you want none. Maybe you’ve chosen a career that isn’t high-paying but is fulfilling, closer to home, or simply allows you to spend more time with family.

    Basically, you just want to do you. But for some reason, everyone around you feels the need to second-guess your choices.

    Of course, I get it—there are some decisions that are just plain wrong (lying, cheating, stealing, killing—yeah, don’t do those). But outside of the obvious stuff, when it comes to everyday life decisions, it feels like everyone has an opinion.

    Your friends might say, “Why are you vegan? Meat is amazing!” Or, “Why live up in the mountains? The city is where the action is!”
    Your parents might push for that high-paying career in tech, law, or medicine so you can buy the big house, the luxury car, and provide for a family.
    And strangers online? Oh, they’ll tell you to ditch your 9-to-5, start a business, and chase “generational wealth.”

    It doesn’t stop there—they’ll have opinions on the clothes you wear, the people you date, and basically how you live your entire life. But here’s the thing: who knows you best? You do.

    I lived like this for most of my life. I grew up in a good neighborhood with a competitive school district. Pressure was the norm—you had to compete for the best grades, the best colleges, the highest-paying jobs, the nicest houses, cars, and kids who could probably write code before they could walk.

    All that pressure distorted who I really was. For the longest time, I wasn’t okay with what I actually wanted: a simple life.

    The truth? I don’t care for fancy cars (can’t drive anyway). I don’t want a mansion; I just need a roof. I don’t care about designer clothes, fine dining, or the latest gadget. What I want is affordable housing, a reasonable cost of living, and a community where people value connection more than the number in their bank account.

    So here’s the real question: What do you want in your life?

    I finally realized it doesn’t matter what others think. Yes, friends and family mean well, but at the end of the day, I’m the one who has to live with my decisions—not them. We can thank them for their advice, but we still have to follow what’s right for us—and if you’re like me, what God wants for us too.

    We all have an authentic self, and it deserves to be front and center. Maybe your authentic self is serving others in a third-world country, maybe it’s starting a business, maybe it’s living a simple life with a spouse, a few kids, and the essentials. Whatever it is—it’s yours.

    Don’t let others dictate what makes you happy. Only you know that truth. And even if it takes some digging, that authentic self is in there, waiting to shine.

  • Life Is Finite: Why Every Moment (and Every Summer) Counts

    Life Is Finite: Why Every Moment (and Every Summer) Counts

    Remember that classic movie line: “Your days are numbered.” Usually, it’s said by some villain trying to sound intimidating. But here’s the reality—our days are numbered.

    It’s not just a dramatic line—it’s the truth. We all know the old saying, “The only things guaranteed in life are death and taxes.” Sure, you can postpone filing your taxes (though the IRS has a way of catching up), and you can try every green juice, vitamin, and fitness hack in the world, but in the end—both will find you.

    Recently, I’ve been seeing posts floating around that put this idea into perspective in a way that really hit me. One post said: If you’re middle-aged, you probably only have about 40 more summers left. Forty. That’s not a lot when you think about how quickly summers fly by.

    Another example: if you see a friend or family member just once a year, the “actual” time you spend with them over the rest of your life might only add up to a few weeks—or even just a handful of days.

    When we put it that way, the illusion of “plenty of time” disappears. Time isn’t endless—it’s one of the most finite resources we have.

    So here’s the cliché (that’s cliché because it’s true): use your time wisely, and make every moment count.

    Too often, we put things off:

    • I’ll call them tomorrow.
    • I’ll start working on my health next month.
    • I’ll chase that dream when life slows down.

    But the reality is, life doesn’t slow down. And worse—you don’t get any of that time back.

    Why waste your numbered days holding back? Tell the people you love how you feel. Spend time with the people who matter most. If something needs to be done, tackle it with urgency—not with “someday” energy.

    This mindset doesn’t just make you more productive—it makes you more alive. It will improve your relationships, bring you closer to your family, make you sharper at work, and help you feel more grounded in life.

    It comes back to the simplest truth: be present.

    When you’re with family, be with them.
    When you’re at work, focus on what’s in front of you.
    If it’s a bad day, concentrate on turning it around. If it’s a good day, concentrate on soaking it all in.

    Life is finite. And that’s not meant to scare us—it’s meant to wake us up.

    So, as the saying goes: Your days are numbered. But maybe that’s the best motivation of all.

  • You’re Not Alone: We’re All Playing the Same Game in Life

    You’re Not Alone: We’re All Playing the Same Game in Life

    If you think you’re alone, well—I’m sorry to burst your bubble, but we’re all playing the same game in this playground called life.

    It happens all the time. Some difficulty pops up, and I find myself sitting there thinking, Why me? How come no one else has to deal with this? Why am I so alone?

    But the truth is, I’m not alone. You’re not alone. None of us are.

    It may feel that way because we only see the inside of our own lives. We don’t always see the struggles other people are carrying. But if you could peek into other people’s lives, you’d quickly realize that many of them are fighting battles that look a lot like yours.

    This hit me recently while I was listening to the Dave Ramsey podcast. He made a comment to a caller, saying, “One day, you’ll read the menu from left to right instead of right to left.”

    That one line brought me straight back to my childhood. I remembered sitting in restaurants as my parents told me, “That menu item is too expensive—pick something else.” Later, when I started going out with friends or on dates, I found myself focusing more on the prices on the right side of the menu than the actual food on the left.

    And to make matters worse, once I lost the ability to read menus on my own, I had to constantly ask people to tell me the prices out loud. Trust me, that is not a great look when you’re on a date.

    It reminded me of the movie Half Baked where Dave Chappelle goes on a date with only five dollars in his pocket. The whole scene, you see his cash balance shrinking with every purchase. At one point, he even tries to sneakily grab money out of a Santa donation bucket just to keep up. (For the record—I’m not saying it’s okay to steal from Santa! But you get the point.)

    The reality is, many of us are in that same spot. We’ve got a certain amount of money in our pockets and it has to last until the next paycheck.

    And it’s not just money. People are struggling with health challenges, broken relationships, parenting stress, you name it. The list goes on and on.

    What makes it so heavy sometimes is that when those overwhelming moments hit, it feels like no one else is around. But that’s a lie our minds tell us. You are not alone.

    For some people, simply knowing they’re not alone is enough. For others, it’s about finding a community—whether that’s a friend, a group, or even an online circle of support. And if you’re not into connecting with people directly, there are still ways to remind yourself: read a book, listen to a podcast, follow someone trustworthy on YouTube. Just don’t retreat and isolate yourself.

    In Jiu-Jitsu, there’s a position called the “turtle.” It’s when you curl up and protect yourself—but it’s not a winning strategy. The real move is to turn back, face the challenge head-on, and fight with everything you’ve got.

    Life works the same way. Retreating makes you feel safe for a moment, but it won’t move you forward. Facing your struggles—this time knowing you have resources, perspective, and community—gives you the strength to overcome any adversity.

    So no—you’re not alone. And you never have to be.