Blind Can You Can

Tag: personal-development

  • Pockets of Doubt Are Proof of Your Strength

    Pockets of Doubt Are Proof of Your Strength

    No matter how content you are with your life—no matter how good things are, how much progress you’ve made, or how deeply you’ve accepted who you are—there will still be moments when you feel unworthy of the life you’ve been given.

    There will always be pockets of time when negative thoughts sneak in. Thoughts that whisper you’re broken, that you’re not enough, that somehow you don’t deserve what you have. Every so often, the question “Why me?” shows up uninvited. And it doesn’t ask for permission—it just appears.

    It happens to everyone.

    No matter how put together you are, how wealthy you are, or how successful you may seem, life can still hit you sideways. A car accident. A bad diagnosis. A sudden loss. Death is one of the few guarantees in life, and at some point, you will grieve—regardless of your status, strength, or preparation.

    These pockets of doubt don’t always come from big, dramatic moments either. Sometimes they show up in the small stuff: misplacing your keys, kids talking back, bills piling up, or people not believing in your dreams. Even when you’re mentally strong, emotionally aware, and doing “all the right things,” those moments can still find you.

    I know them well.

    For me, they often appear when I’m facing a difficult task because of my blindness. That’s when the thoughts try to creep in: Why me? Why does my life have to be harder? Why am I struggling with something that seems so simple for others?

    Here’s the important part though—those emotions are manageable.

    You may never fully eliminate them, but you can learn how to handle them.

    This is where I like to borrow a page from Happy Gilmore and go to my “happy place.” I remind myself of what I do well. I think about everything I’ve already overcome. I reflect on the challenges that once felt impossible but are now just chapters in my story.

    The truth is, the difficulty you’re facing right now exists because you’re capable of handling it.

    Whether you believe in God, the universe, or something in between, challenges don’t show up randomly. Sometimes they’re meant to teach you. Sometimes they’re there to redirect you. Other times, they force you to pivot, adapt, and take a route you never would have chosen—but end up needing.

    The point is not to get discouraged.

    Even when it feels like everything is stacked against you, trust that you have the ability to move through it.

    I learned this lesson clearly through jiu-jitsu: be patient and move with purpose. Some situations take time to resolve. Some require extra focus, discipline, and humility. Things may look overwhelming when you first step up to them—but you’ve already lost if you tell yourself you can’t before you even begin.

    So when those pockets of negativity appear, pause.

    Tell yourself: I can handle this. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can. Practice patience. Take it one step at a time.

    Before you know it, you’ll look back and realize—you’re already on the other side.

    If this message resonated with you, share it with someone who might need the reminder today. Leave a comment below and let me know how you work through moments of self-doubt. And if you’re on a journey of growth, resilience, or rebuilding confidence, stick around—there’s more to come.

  • When Motivation Fades: Finding Strength in the Journey, Not the Finish Line

    When Motivation Fades: Finding Strength in the Journey, Not the Finish Line

    Sometimes we lose that motivation to push forward. It just doesn’t feel important anymore. Maybe we’ve lost interest—or maybe, more honestly, we’ve lost hope.

    I’ve been there many times.
    Working on something for months or even years… and nothing seems to bloom. No results. No fruit. Just effort going into a black hole. You start to wonder if the universe even got your memo.

    It’s easy to lose motivation when you can’t see progress. Sometimes even failure feels better than the endless grind. At least with failure, the race is over—you crossed the finish line, even if you finished last.

    It’s like that brutal sports game: you know you’re getting blown out, but deep down you’re still relieved when the buzzer rings and you can finally go home.

    Or a fight:
    When you’re losing and taking hit after hit, you start hoping the match ends just so the pain stops—even if your chances of winning are microscopic.

    Life feels exactly like that sometimes.
    Blow after blow.
    Round after round.
    And the worst part?

    There’s no bell to save you.
    The round doesn’t end.
    You just have to keep moving, breathing, enduring.

    We are constantly tested in ways that make us feel like everything is falling apart. Hope dries up. Confidence fades. Motivation disappears. But somehow—we’re still here.

    The truth is, society teaches us to obsess about winning and losing. To measure everything by results. But life isn’t a scoreboard.
    And journeys aren’t meant to be rushed.

    The real value comes from the process—
    the lessons,
    the grit,
    the resilience,
    the character built in the struggle.

    It won’t always be easy.
    It won’t always be pretty.
    And yes, sometimes it will hurt like hell.

    But if you survive, you emerge stronger.
    And that is what you should focus on.

    Be thankful for the journey—
    even the messy, painful, confusing parts.
    They’re shaping you into someone tougher, wiser, and more capable than you were yesterday.

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  • Life Is Just a Game of Odds: How to Stack the Deck in Your Favor

    Life Is Just a Game of Odds: How to Stack the Deck in Your Favor

    Life is really just a statistics game. Hear me out.

    I was brainstorming with a friend the other day, and the same message kept resurfacing: there are no guarantees in life. Nothing is 100 percent.

    You can study for weeks, but there’s no promise you’ll ace that final exam. You can hit the gym every day, but there’s no guarantee you’ll stay perfectly healthy forever. You can work hard, play smart, and still not end up with a six-figure salary or that corner office.

    Don’t get me wrong — I love the enthusiasm of coaches, financial advisors, and self-help gurus who give us steps to success or happiness. But here’s the truth: all those plans, meditations, and affirmations don’t guarantee anything. They simply increase the probability that things will go your way.

    Life is probability in motion.

    Why does one person who spends their life on the couch end up winning the lottery or inheriting a fortune, while another incredibly gifted, hard-working individual might die broke and alone? Because the odds don’t play favorites.

    Everything we do — all that hustle, positive thinking, and self-improvement — is just an attempt to stack the odds in our favor. It’s like choosing the tallest friends for your pickup basketball team or buying extra raffle tickets to win that grand prize at the school fundraiser. You can improve your chances, but you can’t control the outcome.

    And sometimes, even after all that effort, you might still come up empty-handed. That’s life.

    I’ve read The Secret, The Law of Attraction, and every “how to be successful” book you can name. Each offers wisdom, but none can promise results. Because no matter how much we plan, visualize, or manifest, life will still surprise us — sometimes beautifully, sometimes painfully.

    But that’s not a reason to stop trying.

    It’s a reminder that we do the work not for a guaranteed reward, but because of something deeper — hope and love. Hope that tomorrow might be better. Love for the people who make the journey worth it.

    In the end, success isn’t about certainty; it’s about courage — the courage to keep stacking your odds, even when the deck feels rigged.

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    If this message resonates with you, share it with someone who’s been working hard and doubting themselves. Leave a comment about how you keep stacking your odds, even when life feels unpredictable. And remember — the odds might not always be in your favor, but your effort and heart always count.

  • Enjoy the Journey: Why the Process Matters More Than the Trophy

    Enjoy the Journey: Why the Process Matters More Than the Trophy

    The result or the outcome — that shiny trophy, that degree, that moment of victory — is merely an instant in time. But the process of reaching a goal? That could be a lifetime of work.

    We’re often so fixated on a single outcome that our mood depends entirely on whether we achieve it or not. And that’s dangerous — because we end up measuring years of effort, struggle, and growth by one fleeting moment of success.

    Think about it: the journey to your goal will be filled with heartache, setbacks, and hardship. Reaching that goal is sweet, no doubt. But what about all the time it took to get there? Do we just write it off as “the struggle phase”?

    That goal, that trophy, that award — it’s only a tiny fraction of your life, a blink compared to the long, often painful, and always meaningful road that brought you there.

    Take a look at sports teams. They grind through brutal seasons, tough losses, and endless training sessions just for a shot at the playoffs. Even the championship series is an intense battle of wills. Then what? You lift the trophy, have a parade, maybe get a ring — and then it’s back to work.

    Sound familiar? Life’s the same way.
    We study for years to graduate from high school. Then more years for college. Then we work decades chasing that magical dream of retirement. But when we look back, our achievements — those few shiny milestones — take up only a few moments in time.

    What about the rest of it? The sleepless nights, the tough days, the failures that went nowhere? They matter too. In fact, they define us.

    Yes, there will be failed accomplishments. There will be goals you never reach. There will be journeys that stop halfway. And you know what? That’s okay. Because life doesn’t come with guarantees.

    You can’t always control the outcome — but you can always control your attitude.

    So, choose to enjoy the journey. Laugh at your missteps. Celebrate your effort. Be proud of the work, even when it doesn’t end with confetti. Because one day you’ll realize the journey was the destination all along.

    If this message hits home, take a moment to reflect on your own journey. Share this post with someone who needs a reminder that their hard work already matters. And if you’re on your own road of struggle and growth — keep going. You’re right where you’re supposed to be.

  • Control What You Can — And Let Go of the Rest

    Control What You Can — And Let Go of the Rest

    Let’s be honest: most of us are control freaks in one way or another. We want certain outcomes, we pray, we plan, we hope, and we wish for things to turn out exactly the way we imagine. But life has a funny way of reminding us that not everything is in our hands.

    There are the “what ifs,” the outliers, the unpredictable moments that throw us off balance. Sure, we tell ourselves to be prepared. We buy insurance, run through emergency drills, and take preventive training. But all of that preparation really serves one purpose—it calms the mind. Because when the real thing happens, all bets are off.

    No amount of drills or practice can predict what life will throw at you. The only thing you can prepare is your mind—to accept.

    Accept the outcome.
    Accept the chaos.
    Accept the unpredictable.

    Good or bad, the outcome is what it is. You can delay it, deny it, or wrestle with it—but eventually, it settles in.

    I think about this a lot when I look at my parents. They meant well. They tried to control every detail of their children’s lives, laying out a “perfect path” for us to follow. They disciplined us when we wandered off track, hoping to protect us from pain and steer us toward success. But here’s the truth—even when you try to control your own creation, life still has its surprises.

    Now that I’m a parent myself, I see it clearly. My son has a mind of his own—just like I did. No matter how much I want to guide or protect him, he’s going to carve out his own path. And that’s okay. That’s life.

    The same rule applies to everything else—the choices people make, their reactions, their actions. None of it is under your control.

    So what can you control?
    Your thoughts.
    Your actions.
    Your attitude.

    That’s it.

    Instead of wasting your energy worrying about what others are doing, sometimes the best thing you can do is stay in your lane, control yourself, and trust the process. With the right mindset, a dash of patience, and maybe a little humor, the rest of the world just might fall into place as it should.

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