Blind Can You Can

Tag: personal-growth

  • Pockets of Doubt Are Proof of Your Strength

    Pockets of Doubt Are Proof of Your Strength

    No matter how content you are with your life—no matter how good things are, how much progress you’ve made, or how deeply you’ve accepted who you are—there will still be moments when you feel unworthy of the life you’ve been given.

    There will always be pockets of time when negative thoughts sneak in. Thoughts that whisper you’re broken, that you’re not enough, that somehow you don’t deserve what you have. Every so often, the question “Why me?” shows up uninvited. And it doesn’t ask for permission—it just appears.

    It happens to everyone.

    No matter how put together you are, how wealthy you are, or how successful you may seem, life can still hit you sideways. A car accident. A bad diagnosis. A sudden loss. Death is one of the few guarantees in life, and at some point, you will grieve—regardless of your status, strength, or preparation.

    These pockets of doubt don’t always come from big, dramatic moments either. Sometimes they show up in the small stuff: misplacing your keys, kids talking back, bills piling up, or people not believing in your dreams. Even when you’re mentally strong, emotionally aware, and doing “all the right things,” those moments can still find you.

    I know them well.

    For me, they often appear when I’m facing a difficult task because of my blindness. That’s when the thoughts try to creep in: Why me? Why does my life have to be harder? Why am I struggling with something that seems so simple for others?

    Here’s the important part though—those emotions are manageable.

    You may never fully eliminate them, but you can learn how to handle them.

    This is where I like to borrow a page from Happy Gilmore and go to my “happy place.” I remind myself of what I do well. I think about everything I’ve already overcome. I reflect on the challenges that once felt impossible but are now just chapters in my story.

    The truth is, the difficulty you’re facing right now exists because you’re capable of handling it.

    Whether you believe in God, the universe, or something in between, challenges don’t show up randomly. Sometimes they’re meant to teach you. Sometimes they’re there to redirect you. Other times, they force you to pivot, adapt, and take a route you never would have chosen—but end up needing.

    The point is not to get discouraged.

    Even when it feels like everything is stacked against you, trust that you have the ability to move through it.

    I learned this lesson clearly through jiu-jitsu: be patient and move with purpose. Some situations take time to resolve. Some require extra focus, discipline, and humility. Things may look overwhelming when you first step up to them—but you’ve already lost if you tell yourself you can’t before you even begin.

    So when those pockets of negativity appear, pause.

    Tell yourself: I can handle this. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can. Practice patience. Take it one step at a time.

    Before you know it, you’ll look back and realize—you’re already on the other side.

    If this message resonated with you, share it with someone who might need the reminder today. Leave a comment below and let me know how you work through moments of self-doubt. And if you’re on a journey of growth, resilience, or rebuilding confidence, stick around—there’s more to come.

  • Enjoy the Journey: Why the Process Matters More Than the Trophy

    Enjoy the Journey: Why the Process Matters More Than the Trophy

    The result or the outcome — that shiny trophy, that degree, that moment of victory — is merely an instant in time. But the process of reaching a goal? That could be a lifetime of work.

    We’re often so fixated on a single outcome that our mood depends entirely on whether we achieve it or not. And that’s dangerous — because we end up measuring years of effort, struggle, and growth by one fleeting moment of success.

    Think about it: the journey to your goal will be filled with heartache, setbacks, and hardship. Reaching that goal is sweet, no doubt. But what about all the time it took to get there? Do we just write it off as “the struggle phase”?

    That goal, that trophy, that award — it’s only a tiny fraction of your life, a blink compared to the long, often painful, and always meaningful road that brought you there.

    Take a look at sports teams. They grind through brutal seasons, tough losses, and endless training sessions just for a shot at the playoffs. Even the championship series is an intense battle of wills. Then what? You lift the trophy, have a parade, maybe get a ring — and then it’s back to work.

    Sound familiar? Life’s the same way.
    We study for years to graduate from high school. Then more years for college. Then we work decades chasing that magical dream of retirement. But when we look back, our achievements — those few shiny milestones — take up only a few moments in time.

    What about the rest of it? The sleepless nights, the tough days, the failures that went nowhere? They matter too. In fact, they define us.

    Yes, there will be failed accomplishments. There will be goals you never reach. There will be journeys that stop halfway. And you know what? That’s okay. Because life doesn’t come with guarantees.

    You can’t always control the outcome — but you can always control your attitude.

    So, choose to enjoy the journey. Laugh at your missteps. Celebrate your effort. Be proud of the work, even when it doesn’t end with confetti. Because one day you’ll realize the journey was the destination all along.

    If this message hits home, take a moment to reflect on your own journey. Share this post with someone who needs a reminder that their hard work already matters. And if you’re on your own road of struggle and growth — keep going. You’re right where you’re supposed to be.

  • Control What You Can — And Let Go of the Rest

    Control What You Can — And Let Go of the Rest

    Let’s be honest: most of us are control freaks in one way or another. We want certain outcomes, we pray, we plan, we hope, and we wish for things to turn out exactly the way we imagine. But life has a funny way of reminding us that not everything is in our hands.

    There are the “what ifs,” the outliers, the unpredictable moments that throw us off balance. Sure, we tell ourselves to be prepared. We buy insurance, run through emergency drills, and take preventive training. But all of that preparation really serves one purpose—it calms the mind. Because when the real thing happens, all bets are off.

    No amount of drills or practice can predict what life will throw at you. The only thing you can prepare is your mind—to accept.

    Accept the outcome.
    Accept the chaos.
    Accept the unpredictable.

    Good or bad, the outcome is what it is. You can delay it, deny it, or wrestle with it—but eventually, it settles in.

    I think about this a lot when I look at my parents. They meant well. They tried to control every detail of their children’s lives, laying out a “perfect path” for us to follow. They disciplined us when we wandered off track, hoping to protect us from pain and steer us toward success. But here’s the truth—even when you try to control your own creation, life still has its surprises.

    Now that I’m a parent myself, I see it clearly. My son has a mind of his own—just like I did. No matter how much I want to guide or protect him, he’s going to carve out his own path. And that’s okay. That’s life.

    The same rule applies to everything else—the choices people make, their reactions, their actions. None of it is under your control.

    So what can you control?
    Your thoughts.
    Your actions.
    Your attitude.

    That’s it.

    Instead of wasting your energy worrying about what others are doing, sometimes the best thing you can do is stay in your lane, control yourself, and trust the process. With the right mindset, a dash of patience, and maybe a little humor, the rest of the world just might fall into place as it should.

    If this message spoke to you, take a moment to share it with someone who needs a reminder to let go and breathe. Subscribe to my blog for more real-life reflections on growth, mindset, and finding peace in the unpredictable.

  • The Fear of Missing Out: Learning to Be Content Where You Are

    The Fear of Missing Out: Learning to Be Content Where You Are

    The struggle is real—and so is FOMO. The fear of missing out has followed many of us since childhood.

    For me, it started early. I didn’t go to any parties in high school. I wasn’t part of the “cool crowd.” So, when I finally got a rare invite to hang out, I tried way too hard to fit in. I said yes to everything. I agreed with everyone. Why? Because I didn’t want to be left out of the next invite.

    Fast forward a few years, and those small, silly choices to “fit in” turned into bigger, costlier ones. I started chasing validation—wanting invisible approval from people who probably weren’t even paying attention.

    And here’s the truth that hit me later in life:
    No one is really watching.
    No one is judging.
    And if they are, it doesn’t matter.

    The only opinion that truly matters is your own. The real question is—are you better than you were yesterday? If you can honestly say yes, then you’re already winning.

    We scroll through social media and see everyone’s highlight reels—beautiful homes, shiny cars, luxury vacations. It’s easy to feel like we’re behind. But ask yourself—behind what? Behind someone else’s life that was never meant to be yours?

    Maybe everyone else is ordering steak, but you just want a cheeseburger. Or maybe you’d love a steak too—but right now, a cheeseburger fits your budget. You’re still eating, still part of the moment. So what’s the big deal?

    Happiness isn’t about matching someone else’s order. It’s about enjoying the meal you have in front of you.

    You can strive for more tomorrow, but today—if you’re content, if you’re present—there is no missing out.

    There will always be another opportunity, another “can’t-miss” event, another flight to catch—literally or metaphorically. And if you miss this one? Don’t worry. There’s always the next one. Worst case, you take the next flight tomorrow. You’re still going somewhere.

    And no—this isn’t “settling.” This is accepting your current season, with grace and patience. Because when you stop chasing what you’ve missed, you make space for what’s truly meant for you.

    So what if you missed out? Accept it. Move forward. Keep walking your path. The next right opportunity will meet you exactly where you are—no catching up required.

    Your Turn:
    Have you ever felt like you were missing out, only to realize later that you were exactly where you needed to be? Share your experience in the comments—and remember, your path is yours for a reason.

  • Stop Chasing Shiny Objects: Learning to Hear Your Own Voice Again

    Stop Chasing Shiny Objects: Learning to Hear Your Own Voice Again

    Why do we let other people make our decisions? Why are we so quick to drown out our own voice in favor of the loudest person in the room—or worse, the loudest influencer on our feed?

    For as long as I can remember, I’ve been guilty of chasing shiny objects. Usually, those objects came with dollar signs attached. The “shiny” was always some promise of money, success, and that mystical pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.

    I remember diving into every new opportunity that came my way—multi-level marketing businesses, mentorship programs, real estate investing, stock trading, Amazon selling—you name it, I probably gave it a shot. If someone was dangling the dream of financial freedom in front of me, I was already reaching for my wallet.

    And let’s just say, a lot of that money ended up going down the drain. 💸 I was more invested in other people’s dreams than my own. The truth? I wasn’t chasing success—I was running from my own uncertainty.

    Everyone kept telling me: This is the way. This is what’s important. This is how life should be lived. But in the process, my own dreams and ideals got buried under the noise. I started to realize that the “out-of-the-box” ideas they were selling were actually the same old box society has been pushing for decades—just painted a shinier color.

    Here’s the part that hit me hardest:

    • What if your dream isn’t about running multiple businesses?
    • What if your dream is simply to work a steady 9-to-5, where you can clock out and not carry the stress home?
    • What if your purpose is teaching, shaping the next generation, instead of closing another real estate deal?
    • Or maybe your heart longs for the peace of living in nature—with just enough of life’s comforts to keep you grounded and grateful.

    The point is, we let influencers, gurus, and even well-meaning friends convince us of what success should look like. We forget the most important voice we should be listening to: our own.

    For those of us who are spiritual or religious, it goes deeper. That inner voice is often God nudging us back to what matters most. And trust me, God is not in your Instagram ads selling you a $997 “Financial Freedom Blueprint.”

    So here’s what I’ve learned (the hard way, with plenty of humor and humility):
    Stop chasing shiny objects that aren’t meant for you. Start tuning back into yourself. Your own dreams, your own ideals, your own quiet knowing.

    Because the life you’re meant to live won’t be found in someone else’s sales pitch. It’s already waiting inside you, patiently, until you’re ready to listen.