Blind Can You Can

Tag: self-improvement

  • Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail (And How One Small Step Can Change Everything)

    Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail (And How One Small Step Can Change Everything)

    New Year’s always brings fresh resolutions.

    We enter January with high aspirations, bold declarations, and a quiet promise to ourselves: This year will be different.

    But somewhere between the holiday high and mid-January reality, distractions creep in. Motivation fades. By February, many of those resolutions are quietly sitting on the back burner — next to gym memberships and unfinished vision boards.

    Let’s be honest. It’s not always laziness. Sometimes it’s life. Sometimes it’s exhaustion after the holiday rush. Sometimes it’s just the overwhelming weight of trying to change everything at once.

    Even this blog post sat unfinished longer than I’d like to admit. (Yes, irony noted.)

    Staying focused isn’t easy. Getting back on track can feel even harder. So what do we do?

    For some of us, that’s the million-dollar question.

    The Struggle Is Real

    There’s a tension we all live in.

    On one end of the spectrum, we try to overhaul our entire lives overnight. On the other end, we procrastinate until stress piles up and the weight of unfinished tasks becomes suffocating.

    Neither extreme is healthy.

    When we stop moving, even slightly, things accumulate. Stress builds. Doubt grows. And suddenly, we feel trapped under the weight of our own expectations.

    There may not be one perfect solution for everyone. But I can share what’s working for me right now.

    One Small Step

    Take it one step at a time.

    Not ten steps. Not a complete life reinvention. Just one.

    Ease into it. Build momentum slowly. Small wins create confidence. Confidence builds discipline. Discipline creates consistency.

    Instead of overwhelming yourself with a massive to-do list, rank your tasks by priority. Focus only on what is essential.

    Better yet, condense your list to five core priorities — the top five things that truly matter in this season of your life. For today. For this week. For this month.

    A friend once shared that strategy with me, and it changed how I approach everything. When one of those priorities is completed, replace it with the next important item.

    No drama. No guilt. Just steady progress.

    Discipline Over Motivation

    Motivation is emotional. Discipline is structural.

    Motivation comes and goes. Discipline stays.

    It’s the quiet decision to keep moving — even when you don’t feel like it. Especially when you don’t feel like it.

    And if possible, don’t do it alone. Find your support group. Your community. The people who gently hold you accountable and remind you why you started.

    We weren’t built to grind in isolation.

    Keep Moving

    Life has a way of stacking responsibilities, setbacks, and distractions on top of us. If we stop moving completely, we risk getting buried under it.

    But progress doesn’t require perfection. It requires motion.

    One small step.
    One focused task.
    One intentional day.

    And maybe that’s enough.

    🚀 Call to Action

    If this resonated with you, take five minutes right now.

    Write down your top five priorities for this season of your life. Not twenty. Just five.

    Then choose one small action you can take today.

    If you’re willing, share one of your five in the comments — let’s build momentum together.

    Here’s to steady steps, quiet discipline, and a year defined not by hype… but by consistency.

  • Pockets of Doubt Are Proof of Your Strength

    Pockets of Doubt Are Proof of Your Strength

    No matter how content you are with your life—no matter how good things are, how much progress you’ve made, or how deeply you’ve accepted who you are—there will still be moments when you feel unworthy of the life you’ve been given.

    There will always be pockets of time when negative thoughts sneak in. Thoughts that whisper you’re broken, that you’re not enough, that somehow you don’t deserve what you have. Every so often, the question “Why me?” shows up uninvited. And it doesn’t ask for permission—it just appears.

    It happens to everyone.

    No matter how put together you are, how wealthy you are, or how successful you may seem, life can still hit you sideways. A car accident. A bad diagnosis. A sudden loss. Death is one of the few guarantees in life, and at some point, you will grieve—regardless of your status, strength, or preparation.

    These pockets of doubt don’t always come from big, dramatic moments either. Sometimes they show up in the small stuff: misplacing your keys, kids talking back, bills piling up, or people not believing in your dreams. Even when you’re mentally strong, emotionally aware, and doing “all the right things,” those moments can still find you.

    I know them well.

    For me, they often appear when I’m facing a difficult task because of my blindness. That’s when the thoughts try to creep in: Why me? Why does my life have to be harder? Why am I struggling with something that seems so simple for others?

    Here’s the important part though—those emotions are manageable.

    You may never fully eliminate them, but you can learn how to handle them.

    This is where I like to borrow a page from Happy Gilmore and go to my “happy place.” I remind myself of what I do well. I think about everything I’ve already overcome. I reflect on the challenges that once felt impossible but are now just chapters in my story.

    The truth is, the difficulty you’re facing right now exists because you’re capable of handling it.

    Whether you believe in God, the universe, or something in between, challenges don’t show up randomly. Sometimes they’re meant to teach you. Sometimes they’re there to redirect you. Other times, they force you to pivot, adapt, and take a route you never would have chosen—but end up needing.

    The point is not to get discouraged.

    Even when it feels like everything is stacked against you, trust that you have the ability to move through it.

    I learned this lesson clearly through jiu-jitsu: be patient and move with purpose. Some situations take time to resolve. Some require extra focus, discipline, and humility. Things may look overwhelming when you first step up to them—but you’ve already lost if you tell yourself you can’t before you even begin.

    So when those pockets of negativity appear, pause.

    Tell yourself: I can handle this. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can. Practice patience. Take it one step at a time.

    Before you know it, you’ll look back and realize—you’re already on the other side.

    If this message resonated with you, share it with someone who might need the reminder today. Leave a comment below and let me know how you work through moments of self-doubt. And if you’re on a journey of growth, resilience, or rebuilding confidence, stick around—there’s more to come.

  • Enjoy the Journey: Why the Process Matters More Than the Trophy

    Enjoy the Journey: Why the Process Matters More Than the Trophy

    The result or the outcome — that shiny trophy, that degree, that moment of victory — is merely an instant in time. But the process of reaching a goal? That could be a lifetime of work.

    We’re often so fixated on a single outcome that our mood depends entirely on whether we achieve it or not. And that’s dangerous — because we end up measuring years of effort, struggle, and growth by one fleeting moment of success.

    Think about it: the journey to your goal will be filled with heartache, setbacks, and hardship. Reaching that goal is sweet, no doubt. But what about all the time it took to get there? Do we just write it off as “the struggle phase”?

    That goal, that trophy, that award — it’s only a tiny fraction of your life, a blink compared to the long, often painful, and always meaningful road that brought you there.

    Take a look at sports teams. They grind through brutal seasons, tough losses, and endless training sessions just for a shot at the playoffs. Even the championship series is an intense battle of wills. Then what? You lift the trophy, have a parade, maybe get a ring — and then it’s back to work.

    Sound familiar? Life’s the same way.
    We study for years to graduate from high school. Then more years for college. Then we work decades chasing that magical dream of retirement. But when we look back, our achievements — those few shiny milestones — take up only a few moments in time.

    What about the rest of it? The sleepless nights, the tough days, the failures that went nowhere? They matter too. In fact, they define us.

    Yes, there will be failed accomplishments. There will be goals you never reach. There will be journeys that stop halfway. And you know what? That’s okay. Because life doesn’t come with guarantees.

    You can’t always control the outcome — but you can always control your attitude.

    So, choose to enjoy the journey. Laugh at your missteps. Celebrate your effort. Be proud of the work, even when it doesn’t end with confetti. Because one day you’ll realize the journey was the destination all along.

    If this message hits home, take a moment to reflect on your own journey. Share this post with someone who needs a reminder that their hard work already matters. And if you’re on your own road of struggle and growth — keep going. You’re right where you’re supposed to be.

  • Flipping the Script: From Frustration to Acceptance

    Flipping the Script: From Frustration to Acceptance

    When things don’t go my way, I’ll be honest—I just want to punch the wall and go full Hulk mode.
    You ever feel that way too?

    Take this example: you’re trying to get car insurance, and the insurance company makes it harder than solving a Rubik’s Cube blindfolded. You email underwriting three times, carefully explaining the problem, and what do you get back? The same cookie-cutter response every time. Thanks, Progressive.

    And then, to top it off, the customer service rep basically tells you your problem isn’t their problem. That’s the corporate version of: we don’t negotiate, we don’t care. Imagine sitting at a restaurant and the waiter says, “We don’t care about your food preferences, and we care even less about your satisfaction.” Not exactly five-star service. Thanks again, Investing Daily.

    Okay, maybe I sound a little bitter. Maybe I am. But honestly, this kind of situation is universal.
    Life doesn’t always cooperate.

    It could be a test that didn’t go well.
    A job interview that tanked.
    A date that crashed and burned.
    Or your team losing the game.

    Every day, something goes sideways. We set an expectation, reality doesn’t match it, and frustration follows. Then what happens? We lash out. We blame others. Or worse—we take it out on the people around us. And yes, I’m guilty of all of the above.

    This is where I have to practice what I preach. Accept the circumstances. Accept the results. It may not be what I wanted, but maybe—just maybe—it happened for a reason.

    Other times, it’s simply reality. I’ve got to face the issue, do the task I don’t want to do, and keep moving. That’s life.

    Now, here’s the twist: sometimes it’s not even the other person’s fault. That customer service rep? They’re just following policy. Their hands are tied. It wasn’t their intention to make my day harder. Misunderstandings happen. Mistakes get made.

    Of course, we still get emotional. But when frustration hits, that’s when we need to step back. Take a deep breath. Remind ourselves—it’s not personal.

    One of the best strategies? Put yourself in the other person’s shoes. If you were them, with the same restrictions, maybe you’d respond the same way too.

    At the end of the day, getting angry doesn’t solve the issue. Just like crying doesn’t get you out of that unwanted task, anger doesn’t magically fix the situation either.

    So here’s the mindset shift: flip the switch. Look at the glass half full. Choose positivity.

    Because frustration is temporary—but the way you respond can shape your future.

  • You Are the Product: How to Sell Yourself Without Selling Out

    You Are the Product: How to Sell Yourself Without Selling Out

    We might roll our eyes every time a telemarketer calls—but let’s be real: in some way, we’re all doing the same thing. Maybe not cold-calling strangers 100 times a day, but every day, we’re selling ourselves.

    Think about it. In a job interview, we’re pitching our skills and experience. On a date, we’re showcasing our best selves. At a networking event, church, or even standing in line at the DMV—we’re presenting who we are through how we talk, how we dress, how we carry ourselves.

    And don’t even get me started on social media. Every post, every caption, even this blog is part of how I “sell” my mindset to the world.

    But here’s the truth:
    You can’t sell yourself if you don’t believe in yourself.

    You are a walking, talking reflection of your inner world. If you don’t believe you’re good enough, chances are no one else will either. The deal won’t close—not because you’re not worthy, but because your self-belief didn’t show up to the meeting.

    Yes, I take some inspiration from sales tactics. Not the sleazy stuff—but the deeper truths. Because being a great salesperson isn’t about manipulation. It’s about understanding yourself, connecting with others, and knowing your value.

    This all comes down to mindset—the one I try to live by and encourage here:
    🧠 Understanding. Acknowledgment. Acceptance. Growth.

    If you “fail to close the sale”—that’s okay. The beauty is, you are the product. That means you can evolve, refine, and come back better. Failure isn’t the end. It’s just market feedback.

    Believing you’re already perfect and never need to change? That’s not confidence—that’s ego in disguise. Real confidence includes self-reflection and a willingness to grow.

    Even when we bring our best game, the work isn’t done. We still have to show up, hit the gym (physically or mentally), and do the reps. Whether you’re coming off an MVP performance or a night you’d rather erase from memory, the key is the same:
    Show up. Do the work. Keep growing.

    That’s what it means to sell yourself—not with desperation, not hoping others feel sorry for you, but with grounded confidence. You attract what you believe you deserve. Someone once gave me a hard truth:

    “You’ll never get anywhere by making people feel sorry for you.”

    And they were right.

    So stand tall. Own your story. Do the inner work.
    Be your own best closer. Because the deal you’re making? It’s the one that shapes your life.