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  • What Is My Purpose in Life?

    That’s a question many of us ask ourselves at some point—or maybe all the time. I know I do. For me, it often comes up during moments when I feel lost, doubt my abilities, or when I’m simply unhappy with where I am in life. Whether it stems from a lack of direction, a low emotional state, or comparing ourselves to others, the question remains: Why am I here? What am I meant to do?

    Most self-help books suggest prayer, meditation, or quiet time to reflect deeply and uncover what we truly want out of life. Coaches, gurus, speakers, and authors often tie purpose to wealth or success—selling the idea that fulfillment lies in financial achievement. But is that really why we were placed on this Earth? Just to chase money?

    Don’t get me wrong—I’m not against having money. It may not buy happiness, but it does offer choices and freedom. Still, I’ve never chased wealth for the sake of being rich. That just doesn’t feel like my true purpose. I’ll save the deeper dive on money for another blog post. This one is about purpose.

    I’m reminded of a simple story:
    A wealthy businessman sees a fisherman relaxing by the shore, not out at sea. The businessman tells him, “If you worked harder, you could catch more fish, buy a fleet of boats, and eventually be rich like me.”
    The fisherman replies, “And then what?”
    The businessman says, “Then you can enjoy life.”
    The fisherman smiles and says, “What do you think I’m doing right now?”

    That story always grounds me. It reminds me that chasing more doesn’t always bring joy—it often just brings more stress. We might already have what we need to be happy but are too busy chasing something else to realize it. It’s like the saying: A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.

    I’m not saying we should settle. I’m saying that our purpose in life should not be defined by what society deems important—it should be defined by what we find meaningful. For me, I need to figure out what truly brings me joy, not what looks good on paper or impresses other people. Lately, I’ve realized I feel most at peace and purposeful when I’m spending time with people who genuinely care about me.

    Right now, I can’t even fully write down what I want to do with my life—my mind feels clouded by outside expectations and noise. But I do know this: My purpose is somewhere in the quiet, in the simple moments, and in the connections that matter.

  • Acceptance: The First Step Toward Moving Forward

    Acceptance: The First Step Toward Moving Forward

    How can I move forward if I can’t accept where I am in life? That question has been echoing in my mind as I reflect on everything I’ve read, felt, and lived. Nearly every self-help book I’ve come across shares a common message about the past: let it go. While it’s important to learn from it, your past doesn’t have to define your future.

    But if I’m honest, I often find myself stuck there—reliving old memories, regrets, and mistakes. Those thoughts don’t inspire action; they paralyze me. They leave me feeling like a better future is just out of reach, lost in the fog of who I used to be.

    Making Peace with the Present

    To move forward, I know I need to do more than just release the past—I need to accept the present. This part is trickier. While most self-help experts agree on how to deal with the past and future, there seems to be conflicting advice about how to view the present moment.

    Some say to fully accept where you are. Others urge you to be ambitious, never settle, and dream big. Then there are those who say to ignore your current reality because anything is possible if you believe hard enough.

    After taking it all in, I’ve formed my own belief: you must accept your present in order to transform it.

    Acceptance is not surrender. It’s not approval. It’s simply acknowledging what is—whether it’s good or bad. It’s like setting the GPS in your car: you can’t map out where you’re going until you know exactly where you are.

    Facing the Reality of Now

    The truth is, I don’t like where I am in life right now. I’m blind, I’m struggling financially, and I often feel alone. But denying that won’t help me. Wishing things were different won’t create change. Anger, sadness, regret—they don’t fix anything.

    What will? Honesty. Acceptance. And action.

    Until I’m fully honest about where I am, I’ll keep spinning in circles. But if I accept the present moment—however uncomfortable it is—I can finally begin to build a path forward.

    It starts here. It starts now.

  • Quieting the Chaos: Training My Mind to Focus and Be Present

    If your mind is anything like mine, it can feel like it’s racing at a million thoughts per second. All the what ifs, should-haves, regrets, worries, wishes, moments of joy and sadness—it’s a never-ending loop. This mental flood hits me almost every waking hour, making it hard to focus, be productive, or even fall asleep at night.

    From the many self-help books I’ve read, one message comes through loud and clear: to move forward in life, we must first quiet the mind.

    Creating Space for Stillness

    What most experts recommend is carving out time each day to intentionally calm the mind—whether through meditation, prayer, or simply spending a few moments in silence. The key is to disconnect from everything: your phone, social media, the news, even people. Just step away for a bit and sit with yourself.

    This “alone time” isn’t about loneliness—it’s about reclaiming your mental space. It’s about redirecting your thoughts from the chaos of past regrets and future worries to the only thing we truly have: the present moment.

    Meditation: Learning to Breathe and Be Still

    Meditation is the most common method people use for this practice of mental stillness. The idea is to focus on one thing, clear your mind, and ground yourself. For me, concentrating on my breathing has been surprisingly helpful.

    Breathing is usually automatic, but when you turn it into a conscious act—inhaling and exhaling with intention—it becomes a form of mental exercise. It gives your busy brain something simple and present to focus on. When I do this, it feels like I’m giving my mind a break from its usual storm of thoughts.

    I’ve only been practicing this for about a week now, but I’m already seeing signs of clarity. This will now become part of my daily routine, right alongside exercise, journaling, and goal-setting.

    Training the Mind to Be Present

    The real goal here is to train my mind to focus, to stop wandering off into the past or racing into the future. I want to be present, especially in the moments that matter—like spending time with family and friends, or working on something meaningful.

    Too often, I catch myself physically in a moment but mentally somewhere else. It’s like I’m watching my life from the sidelines instead of living it. That disconnect not only affects my productivity, but also my relationships. I’m realizing how important it is to break that pattern—not just for my work, but for the people I care about.

    Final Thoughts

    This week, I’ve started working on my ability to focus and be present, and it’s already showing promise. I’m learning that inner peace is not passive—it’s a discipline. A skill I can practice daily, just like anything else in my routine.

    Maybe you’ve tried meditation, or maybe you have another practice that works for you. Either way, the message is the same: when we train our minds to be still, we create room for clarity, purpose, and deeper connection—with ourselves and with others.

    Let’s not just go through life on autopilot. Let’s learn to actually live in the moments we’re given.